Churducken

Hey man. I wish I had some sort of miracle advice, something that might make it a little better, or even be useful, but I don't... breaking up hurts, and the way everything went down between you two, and the way she went about things, makes it especially hard. The only advice I can offer is that it'll get easier as time goes by man. And there will be other girls out there in the future, ones that will be better... treat you better than she did. Pool? Video games? I'm free any day next week, starting Tuesday. Just let me know when's best for you man. A breakup is never a happy time, but if it has to happen, it's better now than 6 more years down the road. It gets better.

Things could have been so much worse between Burke and I Geoff. We were loyal, faithful, committed. We did love each other. Our only sin was that we came together way too young. She treated me as well as she could. I did the same. Life just got in the way. But you are right, and Burke and I had discussed this as well, it is better that it happened now, rather than years down the road. I just wish she had known how to tell me all of this BEFORE we had started planning a life together.
My only regret is that once again, I had to be the one to say anything. I gave her so many chances to ask me to back away, to tell me to my face that she needed space, but she never did. And she never would have. We would have tried to keep is together for 2 years or less, until she was gone to Oxford, until she felt comfortable enough in her new life to let me go. I would have done anything for her, followed her anywhere. But she doesn't want that. Doesn't want me. She doesn't know what she wants, so I had to defend myself. But as we both know Geoff, by being the one to make it official, Burke is free of any accountability. She can tell everyone "Will couldn't deal so he left me." Just once, I could have liked to know what that was like. To be free of the burden of doing what no one wants to do. I threw myself on yet another grenade. I am so tired of it. And now I just feel empty and hallow inside. I need help man, and I am getting it. But I have lost a huge part of myself, maybe forever. Not all of it was bad, and I only remember the good things. That has to count for something right?

I too wish that I had some great advice to offer you, the only thing that I can offer you is my friendship and I hope that is enough. The only real bit of advice that I can offer is that you shouldn't regret what you did. You saw what had to be done and you did it. You were both on the path to destruction had you stayed together, at least that's the way I see it.
Life sucks, we all know that. The important thing is that you have the strength and courage to be able to move on to the next part of your life. We have all noticed that you have been gradually getting your life in order so that you can achieve your ultimate goal. I like to think of your situation as a great burden being lifted off your shoulders, and now you can pave the path that you have always wanted. The opportunity has been offered to you, so take it and don't let it go.
I can't offer any relationship advice, but like Geoff says, there will be others out there. They will be better than she was. My last words to you are to not think of the last six years as a waste, but rather a learning experience. Take time to reflect on everything, both the good and the bad. Then take what you have learned and make a commitment to yourself not to repeat any mistakes you made, but also remember what made things good.

You are my family, and like family I want to help in any way possible. Let me know if there is anything I can do. Take care, my brother.

Thanks Kevin. As much as I want to look at this separation as a relief, I still only feel it as a loss. I didn't want to end things, I wanted to make it work. But my life goes on with or without her. I am still going to do everything I had planned, but I am doing it all alone now. And that is very hard for me, because I cared so much about her. I don't claim to understand or to know what the future holds, but I am still moving, I am still breathing, and tomorrow the sun will rise again. This is going to take a long time, but I will be whole again some day. Thank you guys so much for listening, and for all of your support. Let's get together soon.

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